I don’t know about you, but I have been through many instances where I wanted to accomplish a goal so badly, that I would start off with a bang, and end up feeling defeated within a few weeks. Then, I would think to myself, why did I do that? Why do I get so excited and day dream about the outcome, than slowdown to actually enjoy the process?
In todays society, slowing down to enjoy the process than focusing on the outcome, is not the norm. It’s all about how fast one can achieve a goal, like weight loss, money, or love. When the process is rushed, the sense of fulfillment with accomplishing a goal is never really enjoyed. You are still unsatisfied and continue to look elsewhere for fulfillment.
I am sure you are probably wondering how one actually slows down the process, and fully enjoys the steps taken to accomplish the goal. It’s not easy, since the norm in society is how fast one can complete a task. My question to you is when you have your eye set on a goal, for instance weight loss, have you ever felt frustrated or drained from a diet you don’t really enjoy? Or wondered how some people can continue eating healthy and pursue their exercise routines with enthusiasm?
To be real for a moment, I can continue to execute workout routines all day. I’d be happy busting my butt through intense workouts, than sitting behind a desk. I love the feeling it gives me! The process may suck at first when there’s a struggle through squat jumps and that intense uncomfortable burn in the quads. But once the workout is completed, that feeling of accomplishment takes over. As weird as it may seem, that feeling of accomplishment, has you coming back for more. Am I right?
Where as for instance, if you were sitting behind a desk all day, working on spreadsheets, maybe for some, you wouldn’t feel a sense of gratification. Although, we all have to do tasks that are not as enjoyable as others, but it takes more effort and energy to finish the goal.
Now sit back for a moment and ponder a time you had where you were energized, and looked forward to the next step. Maybe take a moment and write down how you felt in that moment, and what you were experiencing. Do you feel the rush of that feel good sensation, yet?
So, why do we start off with a bang, then fall back into our old routine?
I was on a hike with a close friend who is also a fitness instructor, and we had a deep meaningful conversation about our own goals, and fitness classes we teach. We talked about struggles, lack of motivation, how we motivate ourselves, and changes.
It was a meaningful conversation. I remember that night I had dreams and woke up with such a profound feeling of a need to change. The conversation completely changed the way I looked at goal setting and self satisfaction.
I came to the conclusion with all the individuals I had worked with over the years with fitness and weight loss, that the reason why we fall back into our same routine is because we never really sit down with ourselves and ask a simple yet deep question “ Why?”. What is your goal and purpose? What drives you? Where does that motivation come from? Think about it. Write it down on a piece of paper if you need to, and ponder the “Why” question.
How does one find the “Why?”
This is not an easy question. Especially if you are asked “Why”, we tend to fall into what our parents, friends or social norm wants us to say. It’s not so easy, and you have to be completely honest with yourself. You may say your “Why” is to lose weight, because that should be important, or something that your doctor told you. But maybe your “Why” is not to lose weight, but to feel more confident with your body.
Once we have a clear understanding of what our “Why” is, the ability to take action and stick with it will be easier. The process maybe challenging, but you will have a difficult time giving up on yourself. Your goal will be more important to you, and you’ll spend less energy on goals that don’t excite you.
How do you stay motivated and enjoy the process of your goal?
It’s easy to fall back into your same routine, talk yourself out of your goal, and once you discover an obstacle to overcome, you begin self sabotaging behavior.It is also easy to fall into the caparison trap with others. It’s important to remind yourself that your goal is completely different from others. Each one of us has a unique gift that has been given to us. Even if our goals are in alignment with others, use the strengths between the two for inspiration, but comparing will only cause trouble.
To continue moving forward with your goal, you must find ways to continue to feed your motivation. Do something everyday towards your goal. For instance, I am not working out today, because it is my day off, but I am writing this blog to motivate myself and others to pursue the “Why.”
The journey is beautiful. Once you slow down and continue to be in the moment, the process will be enjoyable. You’ll even forget about the outcome, because you’re having so much fun and learning new things about yourself. Of course there will be bumps along the way, and there won’t always be satisfaction. But you can find ways to link your progress back to your goals and the “why?” It’s never a straight line, there will be many twists, turns, backtracks and dips, but you’ll enjoy the process regardless of obstacles.
I believe in you.
With love <3,
This isn’t going to work out”-Where did my petals go?
I have been through relationship rollercoasters, and what it has taught me, is to take care of myself and fully blossom into the woman I have strived to be.
About two years ago, I was crushed emotionally by a breakup that has now transformed me into who I am today. At that moment when I heard “ This isn’t going to work out” come out of his mouth, my petals had dropped, but also a spark ignited within. At first I thought it was a broken heart, my crushed spirit, but sure enough it was my soul that was eager to blossom.
Though I was completely crushed and felt as if I lost my self worth, I made a point that although it takes time for a broken heart to heal, I can take responsibility for myself and be healthy.
I can pick up my petals, love myself harder and be more joyful with life. So, I decided it was time, to dig my dirt, pull the weeds and begin planting my flower garden.
Once I began planting my garden of transformation, life blossomed in a magical way. I began to blossom into a woman who claimed her own power and magnificence. Although, I am not perfect and still have much to learn, I am emotionally, physically and spiritually healthy. I am highly motivated to serve a community of women who are ready to blossom and step into who they are. If I am willing to face my dirt, plant my seeds and blossom, just imagine what you can do.
The Fallen Petals and Crushed Spirit- How I Began to Transform from a Seed to a Flower
Relationships can dig up a lot of dirt in your flower garden. They can uproot the vibrant flowers and poison the soil. But, it’s never permanent. You can always buy new soil, build another garden, and plant healthier seeds.
The past relationship had taught me a lot about myself, and look at who I was in a different light. The break up ignited my inner guide, and lead me back to who I truly was. It brought me back to the woman who would run outside under the sun, dig her hands in the soft soil, get in touch with herself through yoga, fitness and nutrition; along with connecting with people who have always been by my side. I learned that breakups can be stressful on the body. When your body is stressed, it sends your adrenal glands, cortisol and thyroid for a loop (causing weight gain). I also learned about chakras, acupuncture, holistic healing through yoga. Also, exercise and meditation is a MANDATORY nutrient for your soil to help you bloom. It keeps your soul, and head happy happy! Which is the most important aspect of healing.
Healing a Heart with Exercise and Holistic Healing
I believe personally that even though a heartbreak is soul crushing, that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. If I can pull through, and believe me I am probably one of the most sensitive souls you’ll ever meet, you can do it too.
I believe deeply, and personally of support from other women in your circle, fitness, yoga, creativity and self care. When you turn your back on yourself, and don’t put yourself first and practice self care, your soil will become toxic. Why do you want toxic soil anyway? Nothing will ever grow. You want growth in your life.I truly believe in a balanced approach to healing, especially with the heart, body and soul. I want to see a world where even if our souls are crushed, that we release the fear of rejection or feeling of unworthiness and embrace that magnificent power within.
I am here to be of inspiration for you. To help you blossom and show others the way by sharing your journey.
Many of us are if not all are bombarded by the media, blog posts, Facebook advertisements, magazine articles about establishing a healthier lifestyle, slimming down and getting fit. As a fitness professional, I will be the first one to admit, that I do love diet and fitness tips, either to get a good laugh by the ridiculous studies or to implement them into my life. But behind all of the talk of exercising and dieting tips lies the heart of what it truly means to be healthy: Loving who you are, and treating yourself right. One of my past clients whom I health coached, really inspired me which sparked up an hour long conversation with her. She explained to me that “loving the body you have” is a great way to feel confident, but what’s more important is improving your health by eating nutritious food and moving your body.” I was happy to see that the whole take on “ losing 50lbs in 30 days” and “ tone up with 15 minutes of intense exercise” because it showed me that men and women are quite intuitive about body image. In a nutshell, here is what she said:
“While I was growing up, I was never confident in my appearance and body image. I always judged myself when I looked in the mirror, critiquing my face, my stomach and hips. My whole mindset of the perfect body was based off of super models, Barbie and advertisements on T.V. on how one should look. I was so self conscious, that I monitored what I ate, worked out for several hours a day and still to myself I was not good enough. Now, that I am older I realized how much pressure is put on everyone about appearance and body image. But, i’ve come to the conclusion that being healthy shouldn’t be about appearance, it should be about health and to love yourself so much you want to be healthy. Once I was able to let go of trying to be skinny or perfect and began to focus on loving my curves and everything about myself, that I gave my body the very best treatment and I got healthier. People started to see my natural glow, and I became more confident in myself.”
I was so moved by what my client had discussed with me, that I felt compelled to discuss with you what my thoughts are when it comes to loving your body. As a human, and I am sure most of you would agree, we all have things that we are self conscious of. Whether wishing you had washboard abs or your arms were a little more toned. It doesn’t even have to be about your body, it could be about lacking confidence in your intelligence, social status or wishing your were more attractive to the opposite sex. There are always those little things we wish we could change about our bodies or life. My approach to most things in life is to accept what has been given to me or change it if I am not satisfied. But as I have grown, I have learned more to love my body for what it is. After all, it has been very good to me and how could I not want to provide it with love.
My body is incredible and so is yours. It takes me on walks and runs during the evening to watch the sunset. It has allowed me to create tasty meals where I could indulge in the zesty flavors that hit my tongue. And, in exchange to everything that my body has provided me, from strength, endurance, a warm heart and feelings. I treat my body the best I can. I stay active and feed it healthy food. Sources have indicated anytime you ingest processed food, it knocks your body out of homeostasis and causes it to work improperly. I let it rest at night and take vitamins to keep it strong, to help me fight off viruses. I love my body the way it is because I have treated it well by eating healthy and exercise throughout the years. I am an advocate for body confidence, but I am even more of an advocate for living a healthy lifestyle and loving yourself.
Remember that working towards the body that you want does not mean working to fit into a certain mold, whether thats a super model, an actor or actress or a role model. It simply means working to treat your body properly, find an exercise that you enjoy and indulge in a healthy lifestyle. That means decrease the amount of processed foods in your diet and move your body more. That my friends, in my opinion the best way to learn to love the body that you have.
Running hands down is one of my favorite types of cardio workouts that I implement into my fitness routine. It’s fabulous for circulation, strengthening muscles and heart health. All these are very important to me, because let’s face it, I am one big walking heart. However, like many wonderful things in life, just because it’s good for you doesn’t mean it’s easy to implement running into your everyday fitness routine. I had always found running a struggle and difficult until I learned from my former supervisor who was an avid runner, how to run the proper way, that can make it enjoyable. Call me a health nerd, but now I get a little, well I shouldn’t say a little, a HUGE thrill out of lacing up my sneakers and stepping outside for a long run soaking in the sunshine and feeling the cool breeze against my face. So, when I noticed that many of you have been hesitant about running, I thought maybe it’s time I write a short article about how I learned to love running. I did some research on my own by asking my former supervisor, pondered back on my days as a beginner, and put it all together to make it a simple and easy read for you.
Here are my tips on how I learned to enjoy running..
If you are someone who is in the contemplation stage and thinking about taking up a new hobby such as running, I will be brutally honest with you, that it won’t be easy at first. Nothing ever is, until you master the skill. It definitely won’t be easy if you don’t learn how to run with proper form. What my former supervisor would always tell me “master the basics.” Start by going on walks or hikes, and continue to increase the distance until you feel comfortable walking at brisk pace for 45 minutes. Another great way to build your cardiovascular endurance is biking or going on the elliptical at the gym. It’s a great way to get your body in shape before you try running. A dear friend of mine has a routine for training for her marathon before she pounds the pavement. She walks, hikes and goes on the elliptical a month before she begins to run.
Once you are comfortable enough to go on a run, the most crucial thing to remember is your gate. Take each step with the BALLS of your feet, not your heels. This will lessen the impact on your joints, and injuries won’t creep up later on.
If you’ve never run or exercised before and you try going for 2-3 miles for your first time, I can almost be certain that you will not enjoy your experience (and probably have a lot of discomfort the following day). I would suggest you to take smaller steps towards your end goal of being a runner. What I mean by taking smaller steps, try utilizing the “Couch to 5K” app which will provide you with a routine that will get you to the pace and distance you want. Or, hire me to be your personal trainer. Do what your body feels comfortable with. Start off slow and gradually work your way up to longer distances with an increase pace. Don’t be silly, take your time.
Not only is running one of my favorite activities to do, but running with good music playlist can change how you feel about running. If you like workout music, creating an assortment of music can make a difference between hating your running experience to absolutely loving it. I choose songs that are positive and have a good steady fast beat because they keep me motivated and pumped.
Running indoors is not one of my favorite running routines, but if I have to I will. I do find that running outside makes it so much easier and enjoyable. I am able to breathe the clean air, view the beautiful landscape and meet people along the way. I also lose track of time and with so many distractions, it makes my run go a lot faster.
One of my love/hate challenges while I run, is running hills. Hills are a challenge, but provide you with a great workout. What I suggest for a beginner is to start off on flat route that loops back to your starting point. This will help you stay motivated throughout your running adventure, because you have to keep going and no turning back. After you master a good running profile, build up endurance and speed then try running hills intermittence with flat surface running.
I’ve come to realize that I didn’t enjoy running until I understood the benefits and the good it was doing for me, mentally, physically and emotionally. What does running do you might ask? Running allows your blood to circulate throughout your body and brain, strengthens your heart (one of my favorite organs), it also releases endorphins (the feel good natural drug), helps you sweat out those nasty built up toxins, and also builds strong leg and abdominal muscles. Once I was able to understand that running did all of those wonderful things for my body, I started to become a running addict.
Running is an excellent exercise and I have learned to love everything about it, but I do know that everyone is different. I have had my days when the last thing I wanted to do on after teaching 3 fitness classes in one day, or working all day is to go for a run. Instead I do gentle exercises like yoga, pilates or go for a walk. If you find that running isn’t for you, try out other workout classes and see what you like, just make sure you incorporate some kind of exercise activity into your lifestyle that keeps you active and healthy. A cardio exercise that gets your heart rate up for 20-30 minutes a day a goal you should aim for.
To keep exercising interesting and to give different parts of your body a workout try to do different types of exercise each week. A weekly exercise routine such as walking , hiking, bike riding , as well as running will help make exercise a fun part of your life style instead of it just being an exercise routine.
I know you’ll make the best decision for yourself! Let me know if you need any motivation, advice, or suggestions on where to start. I am here for you and will not let you fail. I want to see those wings carry you on your journey towards a happier, healthier life.
Hello loves! Welcome to my FitnessbyEmily blog. This blog is full of motivational goodies! Like you, I have encountered many obstacles when it comes to health and weight loss goals. This blog will give you an insight of how I overcame obstacles, how I started loving my body and many more goodies! I can't wait to hear your voice, also! Much love, Emily.