I don’t know about you, but I have been through many instances where I wanted to accomplish a goal so badly, that I would start off with a bang, and end up feeling defeated within a few weeks. Then, I would think to myself, why did I do that? Why do I get so excited and day dream about the outcome, than slowdown to actually enjoy the process?
In todays society, slowing down to enjoy the process than focusing on the outcome, is not the norm. It’s all about how fast one can achieve a goal, like weight loss, money, or love. When the process is rushed, the sense of fulfillment with accomplishing a goal is never really enjoyed. You are still unsatisfied and continue to look elsewhere for fulfillment.
I am sure you are probably wondering how one actually slows down the process, and fully enjoys the steps taken to accomplish the goal. It’s not easy, since the norm in society is how fast one can complete a task. My question to you is when you have your eye set on a goal, for instance weight loss, have you ever felt frustrated or drained from a diet you don’t really enjoy? Or wondered how some people can continue eating healthy and pursue their exercise routines with enthusiasm?
To be real for a moment, I can continue to execute workout routines all day. I’d be happy busting my butt through intense workouts, than sitting behind a desk. I love the feeling it gives me! The process may suck at first when there’s a struggle through squat jumps and that intense uncomfortable burn in the quads. But once the workout is completed, that feeling of accomplishment takes over. As weird as it may seem, that feeling of accomplishment, has you coming back for more. Am I right?
Where as for instance, if you were sitting behind a desk all day, working on spreadsheets, maybe for some, you wouldn’t feel a sense of gratification. Although, we all have to do tasks that are not as enjoyable as others, but it takes more effort and energy to finish the goal.
Now sit back for a moment and ponder a time you had where you were energized, and looked forward to the next step. Maybe take a moment and write down how you felt in that moment, and what you were experiencing. Do you feel the rush of that feel good sensation, yet?
So, why do we start off with a bang, then fall back into our old routine?
I was on a hike with a close friend who is also a fitness instructor, and we had a deep meaningful conversation about our own goals, and fitness classes we teach. We talked about struggles, lack of motivation, how we motivate ourselves, and changes.
It was a meaningful conversation. I remember that night I had dreams and woke up with such a profound feeling of a need to change. The conversation completely changed the way I looked at goal setting and self satisfaction.
I came to the conclusion with all the individuals I had worked with over the years with fitness and weight loss, that the reason why we fall back into our same routine is because we never really sit down with ourselves and ask a simple yet deep question “ Why?”. What is your goal and purpose? What drives you? Where does that motivation come from? Think about it. Write it down on a piece of paper if you need to, and ponder the “Why” question.
How does one find the “Why?”
This is not an easy question. Especially if you are asked “Why”, we tend to fall into what our parents, friends or social norm wants us to say. It’s not so easy, and you have to be completely honest with yourself. You may say your “Why” is to lose weight, because that should be important, or something that your doctor told you. But maybe your “Why” is not to lose weight, but to feel more confident with your body.
Once we have a clear understanding of what our “Why” is, the ability to take action and stick with it will be easier. The process maybe challenging, but you will have a difficult time giving up on yourself. Your goal will be more important to you, and you’ll spend less energy on goals that don’t excite you.
How do you stay motivated and enjoy the process of your goal?
It’s easy to fall back into your same routine, talk yourself out of your goal, and once you discover an obstacle to overcome, you begin self sabotaging behavior.It is also easy to fall into the caparison trap with others. It’s important to remind yourself that your goal is completely different from others. Each one of us has a unique gift that has been given to us. Even if our goals are in alignment with others, use the strengths between the two for inspiration, but comparing will only cause trouble.
To continue moving forward with your goal, you must find ways to continue to feed your motivation. Do something everyday towards your goal. For instance, I am not working out today, because it is my day off, but I am writing this blog to motivate myself and others to pursue the “Why.”
The journey is beautiful. Once you slow down and continue to be in the moment, the process will be enjoyable. You’ll even forget about the outcome, because you’re having so much fun and learning new things about yourself. Of course there will be bumps along the way, and there won’t always be satisfaction. But you can find ways to link your progress back to your goals and the “why?” It’s never a straight line, there will be many twists, turns, backtracks and dips, but you’ll enjoy the process regardless of obstacles.
I believe in you.
With love <3,
Hello loves! Welcome to my FitnessbyEmily blog. This blog is full of motivational goodies! Like you, I have encountered many obstacles when it comes to health and weight loss goals. This blog will give you an insight of how I overcame obstacles, how I started loving my body and many more goodies! I can't wait to hear your voice, also! Much love, Emily.